"To receive a smile, give one away."

What’s Love? Random thoughts of a certain guy…

Lessons come from everywhere, everyday. Real lessons are a dime a dozen: where certain events occur in which one is forced to see the truth of matters. What’s harder to come by are lessons learned, where one needs to be constantly beat up and fed in roger to grow. Here are some which may not be lessons, but more of learnings which have summarized my current standing, and born out of my need to move forward.

“If it terrifies you, it’s not love”

Fear, the product of the unknown. Fear is the one which drives people away from us, and intern drives us away from other people. Fear is the one which denies is from ourselves, which keeps us seeing what is truly there. Fear encourages us to fail. Fear tell us to lie to ourselves. Fear tells us to hurt others.

Yes, there are times when i’ve acted out of fear: fear that what I do is not working, and therefore steered me on another fact that was even worse. Fear clouded my judgement, covered my true intentions, and hurt to ones I love. There is not fear in love - when one is loved, one gives everything to the other, and tells the other of one’s thoughts, feelings, and acts upon it. it’s never about sacrificing your own identity to fulfill the needs of others, or to act just to satisfy yourself. Ask, are you truly happy with what you’re doing? Acceptance and understanding is key, for without it you are just a lowly follower to a master which should be your equal. 

Never act our of fear. Act out of duty; act out of responsibility; act out of love; but never act out of fear. If the other person accepts you for who you are, then there will be no place for fear to dwell, but if the other person, or you, expect the other to be what you want them to be and force it upon the person, then there will be no room for love, only a life full of deceit and torture. 

“Simple things, no matter how insignificant they may be, matter the most.”

SIMPLE.THINGS.MATTER. Whether it’s a simple phone call you forgot to make, or a time you can’t follow - everything that is anything, can eventually lead to something big. Where do you think fights start? They don’t begin with “I can’t make up my mind on which house i want to buy!” but rather they start with “Why didn’t you call me?” Think about it, arguments don’t happen, they escalate. The worst fight and breakups stem from the smallest of things, like not listening to the sentence that mattered most to your significant other. It’s not particularly hard to remember the most basic things, but it’s especially hard to get out of your comfort zone, to do the things that you want instead of the things that you are supposed to do. It’s not about giving the cake, it’s about being there when it happens.

One tip: LISTEN! Another tip: STOP BEING SELFISH! Simple things one can do to avoid all conflict and start living happily. It’s a big thing to start conversation, but give due respect to a person who’s talking, take time and get to know them through their stories, or even through their empty rants, or even their silence. Everything starts from something small, and unknowingly, even the best of times comes from a simple “hello” that one fateful day.

“It’s not about considering your options, it’s about making your choices.”

A quote I personally said in one time of hurt, i believe this with all my heart. Of course, there will always be time to look at the good and bad, to weigh the positives and negatives, but the real challenge of what makes this quote one to remember is actually making the choices - and sticking to it. You may be a man who can get any woman he wants, but you should know when to cut the crap and choose who you want to be with for the rest of your life. Stop juggling all these things at once, because soon enough all of them will lose their essence of being there and you’d end up with nothing…nothing at all. It’s not about who’s better for you, or who makes you feel the most excited, it’s about knowing who will make you happy, and about who you can make happy.

Another way to say this is: MAKE UP YOUR MIND. Life doesn’t give us everything, it gives us what we need best, what will complete us. Sometimes it gives it to us right in our faces. The things we need to do are stop ignoring them, stop treating them like they’re just there and looking for another option. I personally ignored this for five years and now i’ve seen it, i even keep on saying “I chose you, didn’t I?” in a joking way but deep down inside this is 100% true. I know who I chose, and no matter what happens, there will be no regrets, there will only be outmost sincerity. I made my decision and i’m sticking to it, as one who has found the right one should say. Once decided, never let go, for one might lose more than what he knows by staring in doubt.

“Love, and expect only one thing: nothing in return.”

This is one thing that is absolutely necessary to life and love. My father also tells me that when I find a job (hopefully soon), no matter what it may be, no matter how tedious and dead-ended it may seem, give it your all, do it with all your heart. There should be nothing to expect if you have no other intention of doing something than to make another person happy. In love, give it your all. When a friend is sick or in need, try to go the extra mile, just because you care. It doesn’t matter if he’s not close, or she’s not into you so you don’t want to care: do what needs to be done. The one I love said this to me: “help when help is needed the most.” It’s not about the gifts you give, or the hugs you give to expect a hug back; it’s about taking her home when it’s night time and out of your way, because she might not be safe by herself. 

There is nothing to be gained once one expects something for something else. true, fair and equivalent exchange does happen, but it happens when nothing is expected. As is said, give love to receive love - but one will only receive what one gives. by mature of this phrase, everything is automatic: nothing is replaced by nothing. Only think about what you have to do, or what you think is the right thing to do, just because it is the right thing to do. When a loved one is sick, make sure to check up as best as you can - without the thought of something in return after. When a friend is stuck in traffic, tell them to at least text message you when they get home so you know they’re safe. There is nothing more rewarding to a person than knowing that they did a good job, and there is no better gain than happiness.

“Love truly, and the rest will surely follow.”

My own take on the saying “Fall in love, stay in love, and it will decide everything.” it only follows that when everything is right, and everything is given to something, whether it maybe a job, or a loved one, everything will fall into place. Like I said, everything is self-explanatory. Kill doubt, kill fear. Both these words DOUBT and FEAR only lead to either hesitation, or lies - or both! And nothing kills more than what i’ve mentioned here, especially if you’re caught in the spiral of having to explain over and over again, just to cover up another stupid move you made earlier. YOU’RE ONLY HURTING OTHERS. AND YOU’RE ONLY HURTING YOURSELF.

Give everything, and you will receive everything. Make every moment count, and every moment will surely count. Know it, Love it, Live it. Nothing works better. 

Love exists when one person decides to share oneself to another, and proceeds to generate happiness with that other.

Welcome 2012!

Sa sobrang pagod kagabi, natulog nlang ako, hindi ko inantay ang 12mn.

Never been better last 2011, but happy. New friends, new challenges, money-burn times, etc. Lotsa things learned last year, so hopefully nothing much will change for me, except the age, of course. 

New years’s resolution? nah, I don’t have to. Things passes by, so you’ll never know what will happened next. If ever things might go wrong, the only answer is “challenge accepted.” Isasarili na lang ang resolution kasi hindi niyo naman kailangang malaman, kahit wala.

Wishing for this 2012 to other people? It’s like

1. “You don’t have to use iPad to read. You simply read books”. Hoping other people to keep it real *in action, not much words*, or else they’ll stuggle on the real cruel world.

2. Nonood nood kayo ng movie tapos aalipustahin niyo. pasensiya na sa mga “film critics”. Please connect your tongue to your brain before talkin. To prevent future BS.

3. Better people knew, kung ano ang biro at hinde. Lame reason ang “short temper”, it can cause you to “instant death”.

4. Education, period.

“I can explain it to you but I can’t understand it for you.”

Enjoy 2012!

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